“Do Nothing” …#1 Video

As you remember, my first attempt at our new assignment…”Do Nothing” …was a bust.

Okay, so this time, I checked the camera battery (fully charged), the memory card (in and empty), the children (outside and occupied), Sam (not too hungry, not too tired–hahaha..but just right)!  Even the moon and stars were aligned for this video clip!  I had a great activity, fully framed and waiting for us.  I called him down, and we began.

Let me re-cap…the goal of this lesson is for ME to discover the impact that MY pace has on MY interaction with Sam. If the guide becomes too focused on gaining a specific response from the child the guide may move at a faster pace in an effort to GET it, then the apprentice looses the opportunity for discovery.

In this lesson, I am to monitor my pace closely. I supposed to be providing up to 45 seconds of DOING NOTHING for Sam to make key discoveries during moments of disconnect or uncertainty. During this endless 45 seconds of time, I should not be providing any prompting to him as he needs time to think, plan and respond on his own first. OK–simple to grasp– difficult to implement. I am to begin by focusing on my pace during framed activities. Then, I will generalize this throughout the day once I have mastered it a controlled setting.

There is a moment that I am to wait for…I am hoping for it really.  It is the—(drum roll please….) MPU-Moment of Productive Uncertainty- The MPU for me is going to come when things begin to go off track– (my pace is crucial here–patience is not my virtue). When I begin to feel the uh-oh, I’m losing him feeling — I don’t think he’s getting it–I am to do nothing. Simply wait and give him time to process. The MPU is the KEY in this next step.  If I can push him gently into this moment when he’s off-balance, but NOT far enough to trigger a melt down, he is growing in his connectivity!!!  It is the moments of doing nothing in response to a feeling of tension or anxiety that we are striving for!!

So, we began.  Last time, he just barreled ahead and left me standing.  His goal was not to complete the activity with me, but to finish and get back to his legos.  Then, remember, the camera card was full, and beeping, then one of my kids came inside hollering for me, Sam zipped back to his room — the whole activity imploded is so many ways.  He had NO Moments of Productive Uncertainty!

Today was perfect! The whole videoing went seamlessly and when I downloaded it and observed…I was so pleased that I had 2 MPUs!!!  Twice, he was moving on too fast, so I slowed my pace both times.  He got a little lost and started watching my hands to figure out what he was to do next…so… I did nothing!  After 30 seconds he sighed, fidgeted, then ( oh, I was so happy!)…his eyes swept up too my face…he caught my gaze, and then we smiled at each other and proceeded with the activity  The second time, his MPU was even shorter.  He again, got a little ahead, I slowed down, his eyes went to my hands–I waited–he made eye contact, smiled really big (like he got it!), then we proceded!!!

I cannot wait to hear from Jennifer Perry (RDI consultant) and hear her critique!

So Patiently Yours!

Dr. J

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